Having some amount of stress can be good for your kid, but too much of it can risk the fulfillment of success.
Kid’s stress is a topic worthy of endless discussions.
As adults, anything can be a source of stress. Work, money, children, marriage, etc.
Because of the stress we experience during adulthood, we often lament a too short childhood and a way too lengthy adulthood.
But remember the tension when exams are near? Or the unsettling feeling when you have to get your parents to sign your barely-passed paper?
Kids experience stress too.
With long hours in school and then long hours of extra after-school lessons, your kid can feel pressurized without your knowledge.
Stress is tormenting, and it’ll leave invisible scars on your kid if you leave it as it is.
In that, you should learn to identify a few signs of stress your kid might manifest and work with them to cope with it.
5 SIGNS YOUR KID HAS TOO MUCH STRESS (AND HOW TO FIX IT)
Too many “sick” moments
To get things straight, ailments such as headaches or stomach aches can either be real or fabricated.
If you feel that your child gets ill too often, especially in during certain situations like before an exam, your child may be experiencing significant stress.
What to do:
Fundamentally, kids need to be able to handle their academics well to steer clear of stress.
Of course tuition is one way to help them. But there are also unconventional ways to prepare for subjects like English.
Learning and excelling takes strategies and effort. For example, knowing your child’s learning style can help boost their learning productivity and effectiveness.
Changes in behaviours
Children are unpredictable. They can be active a moment, and hushed the next.
But when your kid is behaving oddly, and your parental instincts are telling you that something is wrong, you’re probably right.
Some examples include social withdrawal, having trouble focusing, increased irritability, etc.
And academic and social pressures are common reasons to these examples.
What to do:
Simple activities to take their mind off the stress like cooking, baking, gardening, playing are good enough to shake off whatever is bothering them.
It’s also important to pay them more positive attention by participating in the activities with them. They’ll know that you’ll be there as a supportive figure instead of being a source of stress.
Acting out too much
Do you find your once-demure kid getting more and more crabby?
Some children, when pressurized, reciprocate with physical or verbal aggression.
Long-term misbehaviour, especially when it’s a polarization to their past manner, can very much possibly be a result of stress.
What to do:
Children, unlike adults, are not sure how they should release stress. Very often, they react to stress with even more negativity like throwing tantrums.
Help them with relieving pressure like burning off energy with physical activities, or calm them down with soft music. If the tantrums continue, consult an expert such as a doctor or therapist.
Is your child getting more nightmares or bad dreams? Do they realize that they wake more in the middle of the night?
These could be signs of stress.
The intricate relationship of stress and sleep is magical. Not to mention how sleep can affect the student’s academic performance.
Having a good relationship with sleep is crucial. Without enough sleep, stressors are magnified. When kids are stressed, it affects their sleep quality.
What to do:
First thing first, modern kids love their screen-time. But screen-time before bed is bad for children.
The content, the urge to keep in using the devices before bed, and the emitted light from the devices directly affects sleep quality.
With the school holidays in 2018 approaching, you can properly schedule physical activities with your child. Moving, whether for fun or exercising, releases endorphin. These naturally produced chemical can make your child feel happy and counteract stress.
Eating too much or eating too little?
Changes in a kid’s eating patterns is one of the more obvious indication of stress.
From binge eating to secretive eating to a lack of appetite, parents should take note.
It could be a way for children to soothe their mood and can go out of hand.
What to do:
If they’re at the dining table, don’t chide them for their eating habits. It could make your kid more stressed than he or she already is.
Spend some moments to smooth conversations into talking about your day. It’ll trigger a conversation and even get your child to open up about what’s bothering them.
E.g. if you suspect an argument is going on between your child and their friend, start by saying “I was arguing with my friend at work today.”
Talk to them.
Kids aren’t exactly capable of level-headed verbal venting. They’re also not used to opening up about what really bothers them.
Talking to them not only helps you make a real connection with them, but also lets you put the pieces together so you can help them find a way to release the tension.
Also, when talking to your kids, it’s important not to overreact. Be mindful, calm down and recognize your negative emotions when you hear something that surprises you. An overreaction will make them feel scared to talk to you. They might even think you’re blaming them.